If you’re a single guy, and let’s assume that you are, seeing you’re reading this article, then spending some time with a beautiful young lady while on holiday will add some extra pleasure to the trip.
Unless you’re lucky and rich enough to be able to wake up one morning and say, “I’m going on a holiday today”, then, like the rest of us, you have to plan ahead. Planning ahead means jumping onto the internet and checking –
- Where you want to go
- How much you want to spend
- How long you can go for
- What you want to do
If you have a bit of experience in overseas travel and know some of the things to look out for about picking up women in bars, on the street or in places of sin, then you will understand this warning. But this article does not recommend that as a very safe way to go about organising some overseas love life. If a girl is making herself available in those situations, then she might not be the type with whom you want to spend some quality time.
Is She Looking at Me?
If you’re in the Philippines, sitting at a Starbucks or McDonalds, or just at a coffee place in a shopping centre and you’re wondering whether that hot Filipina is openly looking at YOU, the answer is “Yes, she is”. You need to know something about a country like this. The women will be chasing you. And the not-so-shy will be doing it boldly in public places hoping to pick up a stray foreigner with a wallet full of money. Not all the Filipinas are gold diggers, but the ones cruising shopping centres and clubs more than likely are. Although this way of getting picked up will work 99% of the time, you need a better plan.
If you intend to take the holiday to the Philippines in 4 – 6 weeks’ time, you should be registering on a dating site that is full of Pinays. (Gender names as follows: Philippine guys are Pinoys and Filipinos. Women are Pinays and Filipinas.) Spend the few bucks to register, add some cool pictures, and state the period you will be in the country. Sit back and wait. The floodgates will open for the next 24 hours and then you have to spend some time sifting through quite a lot of prospects.
- Unless you want a readymade family to look after on your holiday, avoid all those that say they are married, or unmarried with kids. You’re on a holiday, not a marriage trip.
- Depending on your taste in women, delete the ones to whom you are not attracted.
- Remove the ones that don’t fall into your age requirements – too young or too old.
- Eliminate Ladyboys, unless of course…!
- Start some dialogue with the ones you have picked. Be courteous, polite and firm. The chat will help you determine their level of English. Believe me, you have to be able to communicate with your girlfriend.
- Delete the ones who can barely put three words together in English on a chat link.
- Remove the ones who start asking for money within two days of talking and also the ones who hint at needing financial help. (Some will ask for money within 3 minutes of knowing you!)
- Delete the ones who refuse or make excuses not to cam with you. DO NOT get attached to any girl that you have not seen on cam, EVER!
- If she’s working, has a full-time job, make sure she can get time off. Otherwise delete.
That exercise will take a week or so. Expect to have at least 100 women chasing you. If you’re sort of cute, it will be twice as many. Is this hard work? Yes and no. It’s time-consuming but it will almost guarantee you a darn good holiday. After completing the steps above, you should have 3 to 5 delightful honeys to decide on. Chat to them as often as you can to get to know them well. Continue to be careful.
Travel With Her or To Her?
A holiday in the Philippines always starts in Manila. If you want to meet the girl in Manila and then take her on holidays with you, that’s fine. Manila is full of clubs, karaoke bars and many restaurants as well as some great hotels.
Hint. Make sure you are in a ‘guest friendly’ hotel. That means they don’t mind you bringing a young lady to your room.
Get to know her and if you did your homework, you are going to hit it off in person as well as you did online. Anyway, you have 2 reserves on your phone to call, just in case, haven’t you?
If you are holidaying in Palawan, Boracay, Davao, or Cebu, and you don’t want to pay for your girl’s flight, then pick one who lives where you are going to holiday. Problem solved.
Hint. If you are going to multiple destinations away from Manila, then you are a lot safer to allow yourself to be chased at those locations by women. And they will! In Cebu, be careful, though.
Filipinas are really gorgeous, sexy, hot and very loving. Some of them can be very cunning too. Hopefully, you figured that out while you were chatting with them. If you spend a couple of weeks with one having a great holiday, it’s going to be hard to leave her. For you, it was a holiday. For them, it was a break from poverty and usually a hard life.
I Want to Wing It
Nothing wrong with having no plan and going on a holiday with no expectations. Wherever you go, lovely Filipinas will be giving you the eye, a come on. If you didn’t plan, then take the chance. Don’t get yourself caught in any situation that will cost you money or cause personal injury. That goes for every country, not just the Philippines.
Here are some important tips for internet dating:
1. Never give out personal information to someone that you do not know. This includes your full name, address, phone number, private e-mail or ANY financial information.
There is never any reason to send a woman you just met money or give her your credit card number. If she asks for this information then you should immediately stop talking to her because her motives are not pure.
2. Be realistic about your expectations. Dating on the internet is not a magic ticket to love. Just as with dating in the real world, you will meet some girls that you do not like or who do not like you.
Miss Right is not going to immediately pop up on your laptop screen. That’s simply not the way it works.
3. Be cautious with women who seem to be moving very fast. If she is interested in marriage right away or wants you to book her a flight to America immediately then you may be being scammed.
A woman who is truly on the site for the right reasons won’t move at lightning speed. That is very suspicious behavior.
Another option could be an introduction website. Such internet companies basically set up a vacation for you where you will fly to The Philippines to meet women. They will gather the women and arrange parties and social events where you and other Western men can mingle with Filipinas.
This has some real advantages:
1. You can meet women face to face and actually have a realistic view of them. You can be sure that they are real… that they aren’t men or under aged girls, for instance, trying to scam you.
2. You will have the opportunity to experience the culture and the country. You can take a few girls out on “dates” and get to know them on their own turf.
3. The people who set up these gatherings and introductions use criteria that you have given them to choose the women that they think you should meet. They are basically international matchmakers. This is a really cool way to meet a foreign lady.
These introduction services also have some disadvantages:
1. The matchmakers that are working to find girls for you don’t really know you or them and are only guessing, at best, that you two might hit it off.
2. You will be with lots of other bachelors and you guys will be sort of “fighting” over the pool of women.
3. This is extremely expensive. You have to pay for the service, of course, and then there is the flight and accommodations. Not a cheap way to meet a woman.
4. You may feel pressure to meet someone and bring them back immediately. Be aware that this is not the case and that you should wait until you find the right lady.
Of course, the problem is that once you have spent the kind of money that you will have spent, there will definitely be a sense of urgency.
Filipinas are highly desirable because they are very beautiful and exotic and come from a rich and fascinating culture. You want to marry one? Well, it is very possible to meet a great Filipina girl and live a long and happy life together.
You just need to do your research and decide how you want to go about it.
Most of the time, you will not find a Filipino woman at your local bar. That doesn’t mean that you should give up. You may just need to think outside of the box a little bit.
Internet dating and introduction services are great tools to find the right girl. Just be realistic and don’t rush into anything. Be aware that you don’t need to find “HER” right away and that you can take your time to find the perfect woman for you.
Marrying a Filipina
Why do you want to date and marry a Filipino woman? The real question is “WHY NOT?” They are gorgeous, exotic, smart and kind. They make fabulous wives and are raised with strong family values.
You would be a fool NOT to be interested in Filipino ladies. With all of that said, meeting a Filipino woman as a Westerner may not be the easiest thing to do. This article is a simple, “How To” guide for you!
If you are looking to meet a Filipino woman you can certainly look for one in your own country. However, there are a few limitations to this tactic:
1. Filipino women who live in Western countries do not tend to hang out around Westerners. They tend to spend time in social environments with other Filipinas and are sometimes hesitant to go out to the bars, clubs or restaurants where you may be looking for dates.
2. If you live in a rural or suburban area, there may be a very limited number of Filipinas for you to meet. You will find that in more urban areas there tends to be more of a “melting pot” but in less populous areas, minorities can be scarce.
So, if you are having trouble to meeting a Filipino girl the “old fashioned way” then you may want to look to the internet for help. Internet dating is sometimes stigmatized. It is considered to be for losers or dorks who can’t meet women in “real life.”
However, this stigma is really starting to come to an end. So many successful relationships and marriages have started on the web that people are starting to see the internet as a great way to meet people.
You don’t have to be looking for a foreign girl to use a dating site, of course, BUT if you are interested in connecting with a girl overseas then internet dating is an awesome option. If you do choose to go this route then you will have no trouble finding a site geared toward your needs. Take your time and choose the right one.