Beautiful Thailand, the land of smiles they call it. This SE Asian country has some of the most gorgeous women in the world. They also have some of the most glamorous half women too. The country is famous for its Ladyboys and is a leader in that transgender category.
But you’re not going to Thailand to check them out. You just want a holiday. Some beach time, swimming, sightseeing, maybe a couple of extreme sports like paragliding or the Moon Party on Koh Phangan are all in your sights as you start looking at websites of Thai holidays to consider.
Check out the airfares and book well ahead. A future booking 2 – 3 months in advance will be almost half the price of a snap decision that sees you leaving for that country next week. Whatever flight you take you will be landing at Bangkok.
Meeting a Girl
If you have made no prior arrangements, then you will not be denied the company of a beautiful Thai girl as a result of your bad planning. Thailand was the number one country for sex tour holidays but has been overtaken by the Philippines during the past couple of years.
Venture out into the Bangkok night after you arrive, looking for a place to drink, and you will surely get laid. Even if you don’t get lucky, you are going to have one hell of a night. Bangkok nights come to life after 9 pm.
Places to Go
Everybody talks about Pattaya and Phuket being the places to go to pick up a girl in Thailand. That’s almost right except it’s more a case of a girl picking you up. Foreigners wandering around in those Thai hotspots are fair game. The bars are fully stocked with beer and women, most of them will be the most gorgeous honeys you will ever see. The beer is pretty good too. The way in which you see women behaving in these sex places is not typical of a Thai female.
The Hunters and the Hunted
Many women in Thailand are looking for a way out of poverty and the life they are living in their village. They come to the big city and become Go-Go Girls, Massage Girls and Bar Girls. Finding a Thai guy who can provide them with security and a better life is a slim chance for them. There are dating sites full of lovely and available Thai ladies almost begging for foreign guys to make them their girlfriend. In Thailand, if you are holidaying in the sin cities, or Chiang Mai, Chiang Rai or Koh Samui, the girls will come after you. Sometimes shy, sometimes reserved, because not everybody is a sex worker or a gold digger. In fact, the majority of Thai women are kind-hearted, gentle and loving. They make excellent wives and companions.
There is no better way to plan a holiday which will include the company of a beautiful Thai girl than meeting them online first. With whatever communication method you can find, meet a few online and weed out the ones you don’t want, and hang on to the one you are interested in. Bangkok may not be the best choice and it would be better to find a girl that lives in a city away from the hotspots. One you can visit or who can even meet you at the airport.
Dating Site Behaviour
Register with a dating site. Give them your name and add a few recent photos. State on your profile that you are looking for a travelling companion who can show you around their country.
Hint – a Thai girlfriend can save you a lot of money by bargaining on your behalf for things you want to buy.
Thai girls online are a lot different to women from other SE Asian countries. You should be respectful and not come on too strong when starting a chat with these girls. Make sure you have picked a single girl, and not one with a kid or two and previously married, or still married for that matter.
Chatting With Thai Girls
Chatting to girls online is akin to a dance. You lead and find out information that can help you make an educated judgement on the bona fides of the lady. Make it clear that you are on a holiday and not looking for a wife. Many of the decent women online will dump you right there. No prospect of marriage means they are not interested.
If she stays, then she knows you are looking for a fun time companion with whom to travel. There are no misunderstandings that way. She also wants a good time and a break from whatever is happening in her life too. By the way, don’t continue courting a girl online who will not, for whatever reason, cam with you. That is suspicious behaviour.
How to Treat Your Thai Girlfriend
Going out with a beautiful Thai girl, you should treat her as a national treasure. That doesn’t mean you have to spend money on her buying clothes or jewellery. It means being a gentleman, something they are not so used to from their own menfolk. Asian women are normally considered men’s chattels in marriage or relationships. Your tenderness, thoughtfulness and romantic behaviour are going to get you a long way. Enjoy your trip.
Thai women are beautiful, intelligent, vibrant and fun. Thai culture is rich and wonderful. Their food is delicious, their history fascinating and their landscapes and cities stunning. There is a lot to love about Thailand and its women.
If you are interested in meeting and marrying a Thai woman, however, please be careful. Use your head and do not become so obsessed with the idea of being with a Thai woman that you lose your wits and your common sense.
There is a lot to think of when developing a relationship with someone and getting too involved too quickly or allowing her to take over your life is a huge mistake that you will regret. Here are my 4 golden rules of dating Thai women.
1. Dating a Bar Girl
Prostitutes are everywhere in cities like Bangkok. The truth is that these women are loose and are sometimes (often, really) looking for rich Western men to take care of them. It is an absolute mistake to meet a woman in the bars or on the streets of Thailand and think that you will find a loving, lasting, relationship.
Please, please, please, look elsewhere for a wife. They may be sexy, fun or exotic but these women are not wife and mother material. They are not looking for your love and to have a genuine relationship. They are looking for a free ride and will drop you as soon as the money runs out.
This, of course, is not only true of Thai women. These types of women exist all over the world so please don’t misinterpret this as racist. It’s just a common practice in Thailand for American men to get suckered in by beautiful, exotic and less than moral women. Protect yourself from that pain at all costs.
2. “Putting a ring on it” Too Quickly
Thai women are strong-willed and will let you know what they want. They are definitely not usually docile or subservient. While this is extremely attractive and shows intelligence and independence, it can also result in a lot of pressure to get married before you are ready.
If you are dating online, take it slow and if you are visiting Thailand do not feel pressured to bring her back with you immediately. Many Thai women believe Western men to be rich and will seek to manipulate you or push you into marrying them so that they can cash in.
You do not owe her anything but your affection and if she is pushing you to act in ways that you do not want to then she doesn’t love you. She just wants to possess and control you.
This is not to say that all (or even most) Thai women are this way. Again, this is something that happens all over the world. However, there are definitely good number of these type of women in Thailand because they do see Western men as a meal ticket and a way out of poverty. Look out for your heart… and your wallet.
3. Letting Her Culture Take Over
While it is VERY important to be respectful of and open to her culture, language and norms, you do need to maintain your own culture and beliefs as well. If she says that things should be done “the Thai way” be careful to think it through on your own.
Just because something is the way of her culture doesn’t mean you have to go along. For instance, dowries are traditional in Thailand but if you don’t wish to pay one or don’t feel that you can afford it then you two should be able to have an open, rational discussion about it. Your upbringing and feelings matter just as much as hers.
4. NOT getting to know her family
This is true of any relationship of course. No matter who you marry, you are marrying the whole family. It’s cliché, yes, but true. If you are dating online you may feel that it is inconvenient or impractical to meet her family but you need to find the time and the means to do so.
These are the people who have the most influence on her life and who have been with her since she was a baby. You can’t simply get to know her and think that your job is done.
Thai families, particularly parents, are very protective of their girls and they will ask lots of questions, feel that they have the right to stay in your home and won’t hesitate ask for help or money if they need it.
This is also true of their treatment of you. They will be willing to help you, shelter you and be there for you at any time. However, their family structure and values are much different than most Western families so you should be prepared to marry the whole lot of them… whether you like them or not.
With all of that said, you have to make sure you know what you are getting into before you propose or get married. The wedding day is NOT the day to meet her family. Period.
Thai women are wonderful. They make great wives and phenomenal mothers. They are beautiful. Thai cuisine is delectable, their culture is fascinating and they live in one of the most beautiful places in the world. Really, what is there NOT to love? However, you have to be prudent when dating and thinking about marrying ANYONE, let alone someone from another culture.
Be sure that you aren’t just infatuated with her or with the idea of being with a Thai woman and that her motives are pure. There is no reason you can’t find a great Thai girl and have an awesome, long, happy marriage… as long as you keep your head.