Meet Asian mail order brides and you may just find your dream girl. They are a very popular choice, thanks to Asian women’s beauty, attitude and traditional values. When most men think of international dating, their minds will instantly wander to romancing Asian women.
Asian brides have been seen as exotic since the times of Marco Polo. For the very simple reason that they are just that. Exotic. In every sense of the word.
In addition to their stunning beauty, a lot of American and European men lust after Asian women for a different reason. Their willingness to do what it takes to make their relationship work.
This guide will help you understand the nuances of dating Asian women and what they expect from you. And, most importantly, which countries are the ‘best’ countries to find the woman of your dreams.
Why Are There So Many Asian Mail Order Brides?
Many Asian women are looking for a better life
One of the most important aspects of life in Asia is the importance of education. Educated men are considered to be high social status. Something very desirable in potential brides, as well. Ironically, a large number of Asian men are not literate. That said, it is definitely changing for the better.
This has created a large gap. One which is usually filled by foreigners with a relatively high level of education or professional success.
And a better life for their future children
Additionally, a very large percentage of the population in Asia lives in poverty. That in spite of some high country GDPs (such as China). Of all the continents, Asia has the largest gap between the very rich and the very poor.
In many Asian countries, the poor have a lot of children who they are unable to feed or take to school. Children are, in the poorer countries, a form of social security for the elderly. Children are expected to take care of their parents for the rest of their lives.
Poor marriage prospects at home
Asia used to have the highest literacy levels in the 60s, with over 70% of the population has gone to school. This number dropped dramatically to 46% in 2000. This was driven by poor economic growth and poor government by countries that had just managed to gain independence.
Faced with the prospects of marrying a local man and continuing the cycle of poverty, a lot of otherwise beautiful Asian women started to look for foreign marriage partners.
Antiquated gender roles cause Asian women to look abroad
It’s a bit difficult to speak about Asian women, as a whole, because Asian countries do differ from each other quite a bit. But it’s fairly common in Asia for rigid gender roles to cause issues for Asian women.
A role of subservience was once the only choice but exposure to western culture and western media has caused many Asian women to start to look for western men.
That isn’t to say she is going to be the equivalent of a modern western feminist. But there is a nice medium between that and their traditional roles as second class citizens in their own culture.
Again, this isn’t true for all Asian women but it’s certainly a common factor among Asian mail order brides.
Asian Vs. Western Culture Regarding Women And Marriage
Asian women and American women are as different as it gets. They have completely different value systems, due to their cultural upbringing. Behaviors and attitude towards things like sex, religion and education completely differ,
The main difference, however, can be summarized as higher levels of conservative attitude compared to the West. This is perhaps because a larger percentage of the population in Asian countries identify themselves as part of a religion. Islam, Hinduism, Buddhism.. etc.
The West preaches equality in marriage. But here, the parents and grandparents are the most important part of the household. Followed by the man and then children. Bringing up the last place is often the women themselves. Elders, or the man of the house, make most important household decisions.
Lastly, Asian women are generally more insecure than Western girls. They rarely have the same opportunities as men. So they are usually a lot more dependent on the man. Asian women sometimes have their own culture shock when having independence and respect.
Pros And Cons Of Asian Mail Order Brides
The main advantage of Asian women is that they tend to be very friendly. Especially those in Southern countries where etiquette is so stressed.
Most Asian women know how to cook and generally conform with the traditional gender roles. Asian lady’s are taught from a young age that their place in life is to take care of her husband.
However, this is a double-edged sword since Western values have been slowly finding their way to the continent.
A sizable population of Japan, about 20% of the whole female population over thirty, is unmarried. And about 50% of this will remain so for the rest of their lives.
Once you get on their bad side, resolving issues with an Asian woman can be a bit difficult. They aren’t violent but are surprisingly stubborn regarding their beliefs. You’re more likely to end up being given the silent treatment by your Asian wife for a week before resolving it. Then she will suddenly seem to change her mind about whatever it was that caused the issue.
Lastly, language. Asian languages – Mandarin, Japanese, Thai, Vietnamese, etc. are famously difficult to learn. Aside from learning to speak, you also have to master hundreds of thousands of characters in the languages in order to be able to communicate.
And many Asian languages are ‘tonal’, meaning you have to not only know the word but subtle tone variations change the meaning entirely.
The great thing about this, though, is that Asian women look for marriage are almost always willing to learn English. Mandarin may be the language with the most native speakers, but English has more second-language speakers than any other language in the world. Often, your Asian girlfriend will ask you to teach her English.
How To Meet Your Asian Bride
Depending on your current location, Asian women can be pretty easy to meet.
Online Dating Sites
Some online dating sites (Asiandate.com, for example) specialize in meeting Asian women for marriage. This site requires every Asian woman to confirm their identity. This is done with an interview with someone that works with the agency.
Most women on these sites speak at least a bit of English already. So communication with a potential Asian mate should be easier on these sites.
If you’re already in an Asian country, there are agencies, especially in popular tourist destinations like Thailand. These agencies
specialize in helping foreigners meet local single Asian women.
They tend to serve higher-earning customers but can be a valuable asset since they provide everything from food to accommodation and transport to various destinations.
Even better, a lot of them also offer interested parties free or low cost translators.
Japan, China and Thailand, in particular, offer ample professional matchmakers and mail order bride sites who will happily introduce you to Asian singles looking for a foreigner.
They aren’t all that expensive and will often hook you up with as many as five single women a day, depending on your subjective preferences. If everything goes well, you pay an additional charge on top of the deposit. Call it a finder’s fee.
If you really want to make it easy on yourself, you can even go on a Romance Tour. That’s where a mail order bride agency sets up a meeting with lots of beautiful Asian women. Women that are all there specifically to meet a foreigner such as yourself. Since that varies from country to country, you can find more info in the country specific articles.
If it sounds like I am being vague it’s because Asian countries can differ quite a bit from each other. So I will cover these services in the country specific articles. At the end of the article, there is a brief description of each country. And a link to each country’s specific women, culture and dating advice.
Hunting, lone wolf style
The final but most tricky one of the three would be to get your hands dirty in the night scene. Asia is home to some of the wildest parties in the world. If you’re out for a quick fling, a lot of your type of Asian women frequent these kinds of destinations.
You’re at an even bigger advantage if you already know the local language and have some confidence.
Why Asian Women Want to Date Western Men
Asia is a vast expanse of land, crossing many countries, with a total population over 2 billion people. What’s really surprising is that of that 2 billion people there are literally hundreds of millions of single Asian women actively looking for relationships with western men. And for a wide variety of reasons.
Here are a few of the most common reasons.
Of all the reasons Asian women have for seeking a Western husband, the most common one is social status. They are usually still expected to be obedient no matter how badly their husband (or boyfriend) behaves.
Typically, Asian countries are very patriarchal. Women in those countries can be something of a second class citizen. This is especially true if you compare it to western society that has seen a rapid increase in radical feminism.
For many intelligent, amazing, beautiful Asian women, this can often mean more than just taking second place in their social status when compared to their husbands, but also in education and employment too.
For most modern Asian wives this social inequality has become something that stifles them, especially after exposure to western values and western men. So they want to date and marry men who come from countries where women have the same rights and opportunities as men.
Something which will simply never happen in many Asian countries.
A new husband and a new life
Western movies and magazines have given strong Asian women a taste of what life can really be like, and they want more than just a sample of what this different lifestyle has to offer them.
They can see there can be a future for them which doesn’t involve spending their life walking two steps behind their husband, being the quiet little Asian flower everyone expects. This is why many single Asian women sign up at mail order bride agencies.
Arranged marriages are still very popular in many Asian countries, leaving the women involved with almost no choice when it comes to the man they have to marry. This is in stark contrast to the world of love and romance they see in Western movies and magazines. More on that in a bit.
It’s not that Asian men are “cold”, but Asian women now expect to be treated with more respect and with more equality than before, which is why they’re so eager to date American and European men.
Some traditional western men can feel a bit lost in the new dating scene in America, since values and courtship rules have changed so much, so fast. To be fair, many Asian men are going through the same thing.
A cultural compromise
That’s where Asian mail order brides come into play, as a sort of compromise between the two. Asian women who are a little less conservative and western men who are a little more conservative can make for the perfect match!
Studies have shown that Asian women will choose a Caucasian male over another Asian male when given the choice, and most Caucasian men react the exact same way to Asian women.
Cultural Differences In Marriage And Dating
This should probably go without saying but if you plan on marrying the Asian woman of your dreams, it’s usually a good idea to learn something about her culture and her traditions before you show up bearing gifts and a smile.
If you want your adventures in dating Asian women to be as successful as it possibly can be then you must learn to respect her family and her traditions from the very start.
Four cultural dating differences for Asian Women vs. American Women
- One example of understanding cultural differences is that the vast majority of Asian women will only accept exclusive dating arrangements. Most of them are horrified to think that Western men might date more than one woman at the same time.
- Another example is that meeting an Asian girl’s parents is the equivalent of telling them “I love your daughter and I’m going to marry her”.
- They’re going to act like that’s what you had planned. Don’t see her parents any sooner than you need to. Or planned to in the first place.
- Oh and one last example of a major cultural difference that Western men need to be aware of. Don’t be afraid to burp, it shows you enjoyed the meal. Yes. Really.
Arranged Marriages in Asian culture
Arranged marriages are very common in Asian culture. In fact, it’s estimated that as much as 80% of all marriages are arranged by the bride and the groom’s parents in the Southern part of Asia.
The two only meet before the wedding and are wed the day after. Even so, divorce is extremely rare. Whether because of societal pressure or general happiness of either partner is up for debate.
How the arranged marriage takes place differs from community to community. For instance, among the Hindus, marriage is seen as a means to continue the bloodline. A social duty. The whole point of it is to have sex and bring forth children.
Any man or woman that is not married is considered incomplete. And since the marriages are supposed to take place when both partners are very young, the girl is always expected to be a virgin. Only then can the marriage ceremony take place.
In general, marriages are considered a communal affair, thus everyone in either the family or community at large has a say in what happens during the wedding. The only thing necessary for two people to complete a marriage is that they get along with each other and are compatible with each other.
In Thailand, the man is expected to serve the girl’s family for two years before their approval is passed onto him, while in Japan, the parents generally seek out a partner for their sons.
Marriages to Japanese and Chinese women are unique, however. They place a greater emphasis on education, wealth, status and family position than most other countries. In the 50s, over 70% of the marriages were arranged, but the number dropped drastically to 37% in 1973. In 2010, the number dropped below 10%. Existing ones being specialized matchmakers and fortune tellers.
Family Approval Of Marriages
Unlike the West where marriage is based on individual notions of love, marriage in most of East Asia is almost always a communal affair. It’s all about what the family and the community think of the potential bride and groom.
Divorce is also rare in the country, in contrast to the 54% divorce rate in Western countries. Children born outside marriage are also pretty hard to come across since sex outside marriage is a taboo.
In countries that practice Buddhism, marriage is not considered a religious event. Often, a ceremony won’t even be held, to begin with. If it is held, it is one that’s approved by the family and/or community. It’s intended to show respect for the parents.
You will need to make a good impression on her family. The elders hold much more power than the younger generations. So you need to court them, almost as much as your fiancé.
Etiquette is very important when meeting her family. For example, greeting the wife before the husband or walking into a house with shoes on is frowned upon.
Different families are likely to take their cultures more or less seriously depending on how deeply they are rooted in tradition.
The Most Popular Asian Dating Destinations
The first, and most important, aspect of dating Chinese women is related to their age. Once they’re over the age of 30 they become what’s known as ‘Sheng Nu’ to Chinese men. This roughly translates to ‘undesirable’. It means that they have almost no chance of finding a husband at that point in their life.
This is despite the fact that ‘Sheng Nu’ are usually very well educated and financially stable And they are often on the verge of desperation when it comes to finding a husband. For Western men, this means that there are millions of Chinese Women who are waiting to hear from you. Right now.
There are no real cultural barriers to marrying a Chinese girl. The only real potential barrier is language, although you will find that most Chinese women, especially the ‘Sheng Nu’, will try to know some English.
China has several large international airports, so getting to and from there won’t be an issue for you no matter where you live on the planet.
This string of islands in the Pacific ocean has been heavily Westernized due to historical Spanish and American occupations. It’s also home to some of the most beautiful women you’ll find anywhere in the Pacific region. Women who are sick to death of their cheating boyfriends.
Filipino men are notoriously unfaithful. This has driven hordes of Filipinas into the waiting arms, and beds, of western boyfriends. Also, most Filipinas are Catholic, so family and children will be very important to them.
From a “foreigners” point of view one of the biggest advantages of Dating A Filipina is that they usually speak better English than most Americans, for example. There’s also the added bonus that they are incredibly beautiful, loyal and faithful to an absolute fault.
They will stay with you for the rest of your life if you treat them with the love and respect they deserve.
You can reach the Philippines by flying to Ninoy Aquino International Airport, or alternatively the far more modern Mactan-Cebu International Airport instead – most of the major international airlines serve both of these airports.
Thailand has a reputation for being a very popular destination for sex tourists. That said, there are many ‘non-professional’ Thai women who genuinely want to marry a western man. For no other reason than because they have fallen in love with them.
Obviously if you want to meet the right kind of woman in Thailand you need to avoid the whole bar scene and get to know the country, and its beautiful women, a little bit more intimately.
There are literally millions of highly-desirable Young Thai Women with respectable jobs, who are very eager to meet a Western “gentleman” to date and maybe even marry. So drop any assumptions you might have about Thailand being one gigantic brothel. You’ll offend somebody very quickly if you travel there with that attitude.
Thai women really appreciate a well-dressed man, so don’t turn up for an important date wearing shorts and flip-flops, please!
Real Thai women will expect you to avoid public displays of affection, and that includes kissing in public places.
You also need to be aware that ‘non-professional’ Thai girls will expect to wait several months before having sex with you. So don’t even attempt to get them into bed any sooner than they want to. That is the single quickest way to end your relationship with your Thai beauty.
More “Difficult” Asian Dating Destinations
Dating and marrying women in most Asian countries tends to be a very straightforward affair. Some countries in Asia, however, still frown on dating foreign men, for both historic and cultural reasons.
We’re going to take a look at countries in Asia where Western men come up against some unexpected barriers when they actually get there.
The first thing you need to know about Japan is that unless you’re native Japanese then you’re still simply referred to as ‘Gaijin’. Which means ‘outside person’ or, more simply ‘foreigner’.
Japan is steeped in centuries of tradition, despite an incredibly modern and high-tech society. Most of those same traditions being as important today as they were centuries ago.
So although Japanese women live very modern and Westernized lives, Japanese men still expect them to conform to tradition. Especially when it comes to marrying.
The biggest mental and cultural hurdle you will likely face is if you are expecting all the women here to be geisha. That’s a massive mistake.
The reason why Japanese women look outside their home country for love is to escape from tradition and its pressures. The last thing they need is a ‘gaijin’ expecting them to act like a good little geisha.
There are less Japanese women looking for Western husbands than in most other countries in Asia but they do exist. Just be patient and understanding. The relationship will take a long time to develop.
When it comes to talking about dating, romance and even sex India is a real contradiction in terms. Firstly this is the country which is responsible for creating ‘The Kama Sutra’. The ultimate guide to sex and sexual enjoyment.
The flip side of this is you will notice that Indians frown on public displays of affection. Even among the younger generations. Even extending to holding hands in public.
India is very conservative when it comes to matters of the heart. At least 75% of the time, a girls’ parents will arrange her marriage. Basically only a very few Indian women get to enjoy a ‘love marriage’.
India itself is fast becoming one of the most powerful economies on the planet. And this means that women here are becoming Westernized just as quickly.
Important to understand that India still operates on a caste (class) system. Some Indian castes don’t even permit women to touch a “white” man. Their parents can disown them for that one simple act.
If you want to meet an Indian mail order bride, from any caste, be prepared to not only meet her parents but to meet her entire family. In fact it’s not unusual for parents to create dating profiles for their daughters.
The parents will often be actively involved in the woman’s entire dating process. From the very start to the very, very end.
Is this all too much work? It might seem like that’s completely true until you meet these dusky beauties in real life. Most Indian women have a natural beauty which you have to experience to really appreciate.
Untapped Asian Relationship Riches
99% of Western men think of the same handful of countries when looking for an Asian wife. The ones we’ve listed above here are proof of that.
However, there are other options. Lots of other countries in Asia with just as much to offer single men as the popular destinations. And this includes a dizzying array of exotic women who are searching for an American or European husband.
After decades of uncertainty Vietnam is finally evolving into the country it was always destined to be. It is becoming a very popular country for Western businesses to relocate to because of the low cost of living.
A bigger reason for visiting Vietnam is in your quest for love. And the hope of finding a pretty, feminine, petite Vietnamese girl to make your wife.
Generally speaking Vietnamese women put their husband’s needs before their own. But don’t expect them to be emotional doormats for you either.
It’s worth remembering that Vietnam still bears the scars of wars with European nations and America. Some of those scars still run quite deep with some of the older generation.
Vietnamese women tend to be very shy and retiring at first, which can make getting to know them very difficult. Check most Vietnamese Dating Sites and you’ll find that many of the profiles have few, if any, pictures.
The reason for this is that Vietnamese women are just very shy, so you’ll have to work very hard to get personal pictures from a Vietnamese girl.
Note that a Vietnamese girl will assume that you are marriage-minded if you’re exclusively dating. So don’t lead her on if you aren’t serious.
It’s not until you actually see Kazakh Women that you understand just how much of a hidden dating treasure Kazakhstan really is. The women here are a mix of Germanic, Slavic and Asian genetic influences. That all results in women with the kind of beauty that looks Photoshopped.
Kazakh women don’t just look good from the neck up though. They’re just as impressive everywhere else too. Thanks in no small part to the crazy exercise programs most of them follow.
Kazakh women are just as obsessed with keeping their bodies in great shape as every other Eastern European woman is.
Simply being a Western man, with a job, is enough to put you in high demand. At least, in a country where there are already more women than men. Most Kazakh men aren’t exactly “husband” material for a number of reasons.
Kazakh women take their relationships just as seriously as their bodies though. So if you don’t plan on dating a Kazakh girl exclusively you’ll need to be very careful. They don’t want to date ‘players’ and sex tourists.
Last Updated: Nov 7, 2018